All too often we see vulnerability as a weakness because we assume it only means “can be wounded.” We forget that when a person is vulnerable in the sense that they are open to criticism, they are in fact exceptionally strong. Having the courage to face candid feedback takes great strength. This confidence tends only to be found in people who possess sufficient self-belief to weigh up the value of any criticism leveled against them. It follows from a learned trust in one's abilities, an awareness of the consistent support of friends, family and colleagues, and the security of knowing that one is never alone.
 

The reverse is self-confidence, which often manifests itself in leaders who avoid candid feedback by pronouncing their own opinions with such vigor that no one else would dare to question them. In doing this they immediately weaken the team, as decisions can only be made from the top without drawing on the views, experiences, and opinions of those with whom they are working. Really great leaders are able to combine the need for decisive, clear and confident direction with openness and accessibility. They also appreciate that authority comes as much from asking the right questions as from giving the right answers.

Think of the best and worst leaders you have worked with: which of them listened to honest feedback? Were any of them the first to raise a hand or admit that they didn't understand a concept or instruction? When you’ve observed leaders behave this way, how did those around them act? More often than not, we find that leaders that exhibit this level of vulnerability engender those around them with the same openness. Organizational politics is overcome by a sense of trust and a desire to see the team reach its potential rather than to pick on the faults of the few.

It’s a little bit like the way we humans behave when we fall in love. From an early stage we want to become vulnerable and to share our life history with our new partner. Subconsciously we know that this openness will bring us closer and move us further along the romantic road. The petty differences don't matter because the journey is such fun. Similarly if a team is prepared to be vulnerable with each other those annoying little habits can't ever become issues. Instead they can be addressed early on and the main thing can remain the main thing. You’ll see with C Squares®.